Last night I warmly received a gift that was given to me: A 7 week course in ROCKING my birth business ( MY BIRTH BUSINESS ROCKS! Karen Brody & Stephanie Dawn). It is an awesome gift I have every intention of applying its’ information and insights to my life and my Birth Business. But this is where the sadness comes in. Do I even have a Birth Business?
Strange question to ask perhaps, considering I’ve written a book, trained as a doula, trained as a “Rock Your Birth classes” facilitator, offer support, information and guidance relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies AND am a mother myself. I love all things baby and sincerely regard their arrivals on Earth as something sacred. So why the sadness?
Well, with all of this wonderful information, abilities, passion and inner knowledge inside of me, available to help grow and nurture mothers-to-be and their babies, I have been unable to action any of this. Not due to lacking intentions or investments, nor lacking social networking and information spreading, not even lacking practical things like logos, website and business cards. Heck, there’s my book in hard copy that can be held in someone’s hand and read through! Instead, my sadness lies in the observation that although there are a handful of committed women (and some men) in this world who are all about assisting others in growing themselves through the transition from woman to mother, the mothers themselves do not appear to be wanting to grow themselves! From my perspective, the vast majority of women are not wanting to actually do the work involved in finding out who they are, what they want and letting go of all that restricts them or holds them back in being the best version of themselves possible.
Sad, from my perspective, to observe that even with so many incredible tools (books, courses, workshops, web info, ceremonies, healing modalities and much, much more) out there for women, around the world, to use and experience – tools that will help them grow themselves so that they can better birth and parent their babies – very few women are reaching out and claiming these tools to use. After having watched Elena Tonetti’s BIRTH AS WE KNOW IT dvd (in which Elena educates mothers as to the importance of clearing out and letting go of as many of their personal issues, negative situations and individual patterning and negative programming as possible for their own benefit, but also so that the baby born to that mother does not need to ‘take on’ those same issues/energies and then is able to enjoy a Lighter load, so to speak, allowing for them to be happier and more secure babies and children, thereby ensuring the world grows into a better place because it has happier and healthier people living in it), one woman said at her own babyshower “Why do I have to do so much work beforehand? Can’t I just show up at the birth and deliver the baby and get on with it?” This causal remark, for me, said it all. And boy, it left it’s mark – and left me feeling the sadness at the state of women in general who are just not yet ready or wishing to step up and claim their healing and growth: for their benefit and that of their babies!
Now, I’m not one to be morbidly negative or see only the downfalls – actually although I’m considered practical rather then super positive, I do have an incredible knack for seeing the silver lining in almost all situations I find myself in or see others in. So I can assure you that my observations and perspectives are not rooted in negativity – they are merely observations, combined with my experience of putting ‘out there’ my services, my training and my energy and yet having no response. I can honestly claim that other than a few books sales I’ve had zero response to my ‘Birth Business’ in whichever form I’ve presented it. (Adverts, word of mouth, networking, emails, bloggin, Facebook, requests, my website, sharing, book reviews etc). Yes, that makes me sad for me as it means I question my abilities and what is that I am actually wanting to share with others, it also depletes my belief in my ability to have my needs met. However, workign through those issues as I do, my profound sadness comes from realising that there are just so many babies out there not getting their just welcomes and honouring because a whole lot of women are not yet ready to claim their power as women and as mothers.
Hmmm. Perhaps the personal opportunity is for me to have the time to gather more tools so that when the mothers out there do decide to step up and action their needs more sincerely and with more authentic personal truth, I will already be there and available to help them? Perhaps. But in the mean time I still need to earn an income – grow my belief in my abilities and be the value that I am, for myself and the world I interact with. I also need to see the Love principles that I live by, manifesting in my own life. For now, I’m setting intentions, constantly looking at myself so as to ensure self growth, giving thanks for all that I do already have and honouring that this is where I am at right now – just as I honour that the goddess, the woman, is where she is right now – and that nothing stays the same as CHANGE is a constant (thank goodness for that!).
Perhaps there’s no Birth Business for now – and maybe there never will be. But for now I’m considering ME to be my business. I’m gonna be minding that business with love, organisation, courage, perseverance, peace and divinity. I’m gonna look outwards to see the reflections of what the world is showing me and I’m gonna re-write those reflections to be the world that my heart knows is my right to experience and enjoy. And then, maybe, just maybe, the world that I observe outwardly will also be tending to their individual businesses, making themselves their very own, absolute best investments EVER!!! – for their benefit and for the benefit of the babies & humanity.
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